So THIS is a *tiny* glimpse into being a minority…

She walked into the class and noticed right away that no other students looked like her. All men.  Many seemed to already be acquainted, or in a few cases, fast friends.  Clearly they’d been through similar classes before. And halfway through the class, her fears were realized; everyone was more experienced than she was.  More skilled.… Continue reading So THIS is a *tiny* glimpse into being a minority…

People on Pedestals: Just Say No

Question:  Why is sex on TV bad? Answer:  Because inevitably someone falls off and gets hurt. Okay, so that isn’t entirely relevant to this post, but now that I have your attention… Question:  Why shouldn’t you put people on pedestals? Answer:  Because inevitably, someone’s gonna fall, and you’ll both get hurt.  In another striking similarity,… Continue reading People on Pedestals: Just Say No

Fashion vs. fit

A friend of mine recently posted a note (sorry, not publicly accessible) asking people what they thought about fashion.  She’s quite the fashionista… and sadly, I am not.  Here, for your reading pleasure, is the comment I wrote in response to her note: *  *  * Sorry, but I pretty much think negatively of “fashion.”… Continue reading Fashion vs. fit

Dear FB, Twitter – We want narrowcasting, not just broadcasting!

Earlier this week, I wanted to send a Facebook message to my dancer friends in the Bay Area  to invite them to a local event.  I ended up manually sifting through my entire friends list, since there’s no way to invite or message an intersection of friends.  Similarly, I wanted to post a twitter note to… Continue reading Dear FB, Twitter – We want narrowcasting, not just broadcasting!

A heartwarming story about bridging the culture gap

A gaggle of giggling young teens — pre-Facebook — pesters this cranky, lonely guy, and asks him… everything. Luxembourg, 1998. On a whim and with zero preparation, I’d decided to spend a weekend there, only to face crappy weather and a lack of available nearby hostels. After much schlepping, I wearily ended up in Echternacht at a… Continue reading A heartwarming story about bridging the culture gap

On public displays of affection — but not that kind

Today, we send and receive notes publicly in a way that seems shocking when viewed by communications standards just a decade ago. Expressions of friendship, social plans, etc. “I miss you!”…“Hey, are you going to Fred’s party tomorrow?”…“Save me a dance this Wednesday!”… etc. Why do we like this, why do we post rather than… Continue reading On public displays of affection — but not that kind

Facebook’s Frustrating Friending… and my reluctant choice

I have over 500 Facebook friends.  That’s a statement to help you understand my predicament, not a badge of honor.  Of these, a handful are close friends, a big bunch are “regular” friends, a ton of ‘em are colleagues with which I have varying degrees of social contact and interest, and an even larger ton… Continue reading Facebook’s Frustrating Friending… and my reluctant choice

Proposition 8 isn’t just about civil rights, it’s about love and commitment

Hi there, I don’t tend to post much about politics in this blog, especially nowadays.  But I have something I want to talk to you about that’s more than “just politics.”  It’s about my friends.  It’s about—with semi-apologies to Princess Bride—True Love. For those of you who aren’t familiar with Proposition 8, I’ll quickly fill… Continue reading Proposition 8 isn’t just about civil rights, it’s about love and commitment